Best Buddies is a well-known program at YS that pairs students (peer buddies) with teens that have developmental disabilities (buddies). While many are aware of what takes place in this organization, few have the privilege to observe the friendships that develop.
Neil Gutekunst, mathematics teacher and leader of the Best Buddies program, said that being a peer buddy requires dedication and communication. He explained that because some buddies aren’t able to communicate as well as others, peer buddies must have an understanding of this obstacle.
According to Madeline McIlnay, junior and secretary of Best Buddies, her relationship with her buddy is rewarding; not only has she learned from him, but she has also become more appreciative of this organization.
“My friendship with my buddy is a good one. I have so much fun spending time with him because he’s funny and nice. He also likes to tease me because I’m not as good at sports as he is,” McIlnay said.
Sophomore Elizabeth Huh said, “I have learned about how to interact with people better, such as being more kind, generous, and patient. I have also gained the responsibility of preventing the use of the “R word” and defending the buddies in unfair situations.”
Not only does Best Buddies provide a fun environment for those with developmental disabilities, but it also helps to show that buddies are no different than the average student; “People with autism are real people, with emotions and feelings, and they deserve a real friendship as much as any of us do,” McIlnay stated.
Activities in Best Buddies have varied anywhere between playing games and going bowling, both simple yet effective events that allow both the buddy and their peer buddy to learn a little bit about each other.
Both McIlnay and Huh gushed over their buddies, pointing out how they have gradually opened up and thoroughly enjoy participating in Best Buddies. “My buddy is very enthusiastic and optimistic,” Huh said, “ and he always smiles and laughs.”
A message that Best Buddies enforces in its participants is to ‘spread the word to end the word’, and the meaningful friendships that have been made through this program show how rewarding it can be if students just take the time to relate and communicate with their buddy.
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